Are you that nice guy or gal who will go out of your way to be “nice” to someone just to be remembered as “good”, and be loved and respected? If yes, then you would also know the bitterness and the helpless feeling you get at the cold response from the other person. Hey, it is good to be nice! True! However, if you are sacrificing your wants, needs, and desires to walk that extra mile for a special someone, it could do you more harm than good. What you forget is the fact that there is a kind, passionate, intelligent, and creative person craving your love and attention – YOU!
Essentially, you are all that you have in any point in life. What you tend to forget in the frenzy of proving your “niceness” to others is that you are more important to you than anyone else in your life. Sounding a little narcissistic? Nah. A little selfish maybe. And why not? At the end of the day, your existence would be meaningful if only you have around you what you want for yourself. You are invaluable to yourself. You must love yourself more. When you love yourself, you will have happiness within you, and other people would crave to take part in it.
Here are 5 steps to recover from your self-destructive “niceness” misadventure, and love yourself more: –
- Stop Worrying too much
Worries are good if they are constructive, but most often they are not! Stop worrying too much about anything. Stop worrying too much about what people expects of you. Focus on what you want from life and not what others want you to do. It takes a lot of courage to stand up for yourself in a sea of expectations, but the virtue of being true to yourself is much greater than sacrificing yourself to achieve someone else’s expectations.
- Bid Goodbye Unrealistic Expectations
Keep your ambitions and expectations simpler and achievable. When you find yourself completing each of them one by one, you will find greater satisfaction and happiness than you would have otherwise. If you have set your eyes on a massive goal, break it down into smaller ones and climb the ladder one step at a time. Be “nice” to yourself for once, and keep manageable expectations for yourself.
- Shake off the dust, and Rise!
You need to love yourself more when you fall. Be kind to yourself and don’t beat yourself when you face a failure. Shake off the dust and rise like a child learning to walk. You will get there eventually. Right now, be there for yourself at all times.
- Celebrate Achievements
One way to express your love to yourself is to celebrate and congratulate yourself at the completion of your goals. Breakdown your ambitions into little goals and celebrate each milestone reached with a tangible reward like a bottle of wine or a box of chocolate.
- Build a life of your own
Irrespective of your relationship status, always have something to do that you are passionate about. Have a hobby or something that you like to indulge in. This not only gives you happiness, but also makes you attractive. You will also gain the respect of those around you when you have a life of your own.
Let us know how these steps worked for you. Let us know if you want to add more to it. We would love to hear from you. Leave your additions in the comment section below.